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Advice Regarding Empty Nesting

Advice Regarding Empty Nesting

My Daughter Graduates College

Advice regarding empty nesting is something I wanted to share with you.  Yes, it finally happened to me.  Our youngest graduated college this week and is moving out-of-state.  My kids are seven years apart, so it always felt like I had two, only-children, except at different times.  After my son graduated college and left the nest, I still had one child who needed me and depended on me.  I knew the day was coming when, she too, would fly the coop.  However, I savored every single moment of the time I had left.  I even got a bonus when she decided to attend college in-state, and I still got to see her frequently.  (Mainly when she needed to get her clothes washed, but I certainly wasn’t complaining!)  So, read on for a personal take on my advice regarding empty nesting.

So, while my husband and I experienced some absence, it was not  the complete, total break that is happening now.  I am calm on the surface, but anxiety is roiling underneath.  I know that we can email, chat by phone, Face Chat, etc. with both of our kids. However, knowing that something can happen to your children, and you are more than half way across the country leaves a feeling of unease.  Perhaps, that is why I feel compelled to offer some advice regarding empty nesting.

The problem with the proverbial “empty nest” is it brings a feeling of finality to being a parent.  Childhood is over for my kids and their adult lives are ensuing, just like mine did so many years ago.  Some parents can’t wait for the day to come when their kids leave home, and others face the day with dread.  Many are somewhere in-between.  Wherever you are on the empty nest scale, here is some advice on how to handle it.

Tips – Advice Regarding Empty Nesting

  1. Prepare in advance for the void that will occur.  When the kids go off to college is usually the best time to start focusing on your own interests and life.
  2. Find a hobby that you and your spouse (if appropriate) can do together, or just a new hobby for yourself.  It helps you focus on something besides missing your  kids.
  3. Get knowledgeable about technology, if you have not already.  If you want to communicate with your kids, you are going to need to know how to text, Skype, Face Time, etc.
  4. Remember that this is the time for your kids to stand on their own two feet.  Don’t be over supportive with money and advice.  Let them figure some things out on their own.

At some point, parents begin to realize that they will always worry about their kids, regardless if they have left the nest or not.  It is the circle of life, so to speak.  When the kids eventually leave to live their own lives, it is hard for parents to adjust.  It should be.  We’ve nurtured those little darlings for so many years.  However, your job now is to move to the background and let your children fly.  Meanwhile, it is also a brand new opportunity to pursue your passion and interests.  This is my advice regarding empty nesting.  I hope it helps you.

Chief Boomer Sue

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